Thanks for stopping by to get a better sense of who I am. I’m not here to play games or hide behind a persona—I know who I am and what I want. So here it is: the essentials, upfront. Think of this as setting the tone. I’m direct, clear, and honest about what I bring and what I’m looking for.

SUMMARY

• Name: RJ (Everyone knows me as RJ).  I'll let you know what it stands for, if we hit it off.
• Nicknames: Dante, Hoby
• Height: 6'1"
• Location: Newport Beach, CA
• Profession: Senior Executive
• Interests: Fitness, socializing, humor, adventure, real estate, construction, mentoring, reading, martial arts, and music (piano/synthesizer)
• Education: Bachelor's Degree
• Political Orientation: Independent thinker
• Religion: Spiritual / Follows the ethics and morals of Christianity
• Physical Attributes: Black hair, brown eyes

6'1" ENTJ Real Estate Exec. Driven, disciplined, competitive. I lead in business, protect what’s mine & provide for my family. I train hard, think independent & live w/passion. Musician & Martial Artist. Looking for a feminine woman who’s fit, social, talkative, affectionate & loves being adored. You bring warmth and class—I’ll bring strength, loyalty & the life we’ve always wanted. Let’s build an empire together.

I'm the builder of homes, empires, and unforgettable experiences.

I live by logic, lead with vision, and occasionally get dragged into karaoke by my daughters.

Looking for someone feminine, social, and bold enough to match my energy.

I have or have access to everything I could need or want and once I find the right woman, I will get us or build us a house, to make a home.

MY IDEAL PARTNER

I am looking for a partner who has the following qualities:

• Gender: With all due respect, I am looking for a woman who was biologically female at birth and identifies as a woman.
• Curves: I find breast augmentation attractive. If we hit it off, I have no problem paying for that. I deeply admire women who boldly take control of their appearance in ways that make them feel empowered, expressing themselves artfully feminine, through this enhancement.
• Physique/Body Types: Fit and lean physique.  
• Self-Care: Takes pride in personal appearance, including hair, skin and nails. (If we hit it off, I have no problem paying for that) and prioritizes her mental health
• Put together: Someone who knows who they are and what they want.  Who has a growth mindset.
• Commitment: Emotionally available, over past relationships and someone who isn't afraid of commitment if it gets to that.
• Primary Love Languages: Physical affection and quality time
• Communication: Open, respectful communicator, Active listener with the ability to ask insightful questions, Has emotional intelligence
• Personality: Talkative, fun-loving, playful, feminine energy
• Social Engagement: Enjoys social activities and is comfortable in various social settings
• Conversation: Capable of engaging in meaningful conversation
• Lifestyle: Physically active, enjoys going to the gym
• Conflict Resolution: Handles disagreements through constructive communication

What I Offer

In a partnership, I commit to:

• Purpose/Direction: I know what I want out of life and the impact I want to make. I'm on it.
• Leadership: Leading with kindness and strength
• Listener: Be an active listener
• Protection: Ensuring the safety and well-being of you and our family(ies)
• Planning: Making and managing plans with consideration for both our needs and desires
• Passion: a zest for life, a growth mindset
• Generosity: I enjoy giving thoughtful gifts and gestures
• Support: Providing unwavering backing and making you a priority
• Emotional Safety: Offering a secure and supportive environment
• Chivalry/Masculine Energy: Protecting and complementing your feminine energy
• Family Values: Placing family and our relationship first
• Flexibility: Supporting your choice to be a stay-at-home wife or pursue a career
• Effort: Demonstrating commitment and resilience
• Affection: Expressing love and appreciation
• Appreciation: Valuing and recognizing your contributions
• Social Engagement: Participating in social activities together
• Personal Development: Maintaining health and fitness together
• Financial Stability: Providing financial security and stability
• Long-Term Vision: Building and ensuring a future for the family and building a real estate portfolio
• Support for Personal Choices: Willingness to support personal decisions, such as cosmetic procedures

Shared Vision

Together, we can build a partnership where:

• Synergy: The whole is greater than the sum of its parts
• Emotional Connection: We share our deepest thoughts and feelings in a safe space
• Physical Affection: We enjoy a fulfilling physical relationship
• Complementary Energies: Our masculine and feminine energies enhance each other
• Accountability: We support each other's personal growth and goals
• Family Support: We are in a position to care for our parents and family(ies)
• Life Together: We build and live a beautiful, albeit imperfect, life together

I am driven, established, and living life on my own terms, in my masculine energy. I appreciate beauty in all forms: elegant design, meaningful conversations, and a woman who knows her worth. I believe in old-school romance with a modern edge: I lead, provide, and protect, and I value a partner who thrives in her femininity, takes pride in her appearance, and knows how to command a room just by being in it. I move with purpose, I take care of the people I love, I mentor others, and I’ve reached a place in life where I want a partner who doesn’t just complement my lifestyle—but enhances it.

You’re the kind of woman who lights up a room without trying. You’ve got that rare blend of glamour, sweetness, and presence that turns heads—and I admire that. You love being adored and spoiled, not because you need it, but because you deserve it. You take pride in your appearance, enjoy living well, and want a man who makes you feel safe to lean into your femininity.  

Let’s be that power couple everyone notices—but no one can touch.

COMMUNICATION

I value open and honest communication. I enjoy casual texts and phone conversations.  I appreciate consistency.  While I may not always respond immediately, during the work day, I will reply as soon as possible.

MEETING / AVAILABILITY

I prefer to start with a phone conversation, 

followed by a video call, and 

then meet in person, to assess our chemistry. 

So neither of us invest too much, mentally, time-wise, or emotionally, until we know there is in person chemistry.

As a busy executive, I may have limited availability but am committed to making time for the right person.

DISTANCE

Distance is not a concern for me; I am willing to travel for the right connection. 

PACE

As to pace, I believe in taking things at a comfortable pace for both partes.  A guideline I have, out of respect for what we could be together, is that I will not kiss or have sex on the first date.

METRICS

My friends describe me as ambitious, relentless, compassionate.  

Strengths Finders describes me as Command, Ideation, Strategic, Duty, & Responsibility.

DISC profile describes me as Creative, Dominant

Myers Briggs type is ENTJ: (The Commander) Extraversion, Intuition, Thinking, Judging.

My primary Love Languages are physical touch, then quality time, then words of appreciation.

Communication style: Assertive  

Enneagram: 1 (99% match), 3 (89% match), 8 (78% match), 2 (69% match), 4 (64% match), 6 (85% match), 5 (76% match), 7 (63% match), 9 (50% match)

Emotional Intelligence Test (PsychologyToday): 82% (82 out of 100)

E-Colors: Forthcoming

FAMILY

I am divorced with two daughters, aged 9 and 7, who primarily live with their mother. I have them every other weekend.

My relationship with my kids is based in positive communication, helping each other, learning from each other, and emotional intelligence.  We go to parks and museums.  Each is different than the other and together they complement each other.

CHILDREN

I am open to 1-2 more kids but with the right person.  Otherwise, I am indifferent as I already have two Children.

CAREER

I have over 20 years of experience as a senior executive in my industry.  I design and build communities from the ground up--turning raw land into neighborhoods where families build their lives.  It's high stakes, hands-on, and every inch has my fingerprint on it.

INTERESTS

• Salsa and ballroom dancing
• Playing music (synth/piano)
• Theoretical physics/quantum mechanics
• Working out
• Comedy & Comedy shows, particularly dead pan humor
• Mentoring young adults & fathers
• Deep intellectual conversations
• Martial arts
• Real Estate, construction 
• Cruises and travel
• Music: Jazz, soundtracks, classic rock, instrumental
• Movies: "It's a Wonderful Life,"   "Shawshank Redemption"
• TV Shows: "Billions," "Star Trek," documentaries on history, business, philosophy, psychology, sciences

FAVORITE CONVERSATION TOPICS

• Business
• Real Estate
• Philosophy
• Theoretical physics
• History
• Psychology
• Sociology
• Anthropology
• Politics
• Religion

FAVORITE ACTIVITIES WITH A PARTNER

• Travel
• Indoor skydiving
• Kayaking
• Concerts
• Comedy clubs
• Board games
• Walks and hikes
• Museums
• Movies
• Conversations

PASSIONS

• My family, friends, mentors, and supporters
• I’m on a mission to "save the world" in my own way—specifically through Education Reform. It’s a big goal, but it’s grounded in something simple: I want my family, our families, to live in a world where the next generation is more prepared and more empowered. I don’t expect anyone to carry that weight with me, but if someone’s in my life, they’ll probably see how much it means to me. I still make room for connection, joy, and love. In fact, this mission only makes me value those things more.

MY PERSONA

• I do not experience jealousy; I believe it's ultimately self-defeating. I trust my partner and do not stress over uncontrollable factors.
• I pursue continuous growth/self-development.
• I appreciate constructive criticism handled with patience and professionalism.
• I subscribe to traditional masculinity, emphasizing service, generosity, calmness, gentlemanly behavior, and chivalry.

DOES NOT LIKE/PET PEEVES

• Watching sports (If you like to, that's ok. I'll go with you every so often.)
• Seafood (If you like Seafood, that's ok. I'll still go with you to a Seafood restaurant, etc)
• Tardiness (without notification or a practical reason)
• Lack of communication and lack of consistency in communication
• Small talk
• People who don't contribute to build mutually engaging conversations.  Where I am the only one coming up with/asking questions.
• Those who generalize, those who assume
• Not attracted to Smokers

MY QUIRKS

• Sometimes I will look away, and swing away from the focus of eye contact, while explaining something, to focus on collecting/synthesizing concepts and my words most effectively

MY POTENTIAL GROWTH AREAS

• When I’m passionate about a subject, I can sometimes talk at length and dominate the conversation. If that happens, please feel free to interrupt—I value a balanced dialogue.
• I may not respond immediately in the early stages of a conversation, but I always aim to reply within 24 hours. Once we’re dating consistently, you can expect much more consistent and prompt communication.
• I’m a deeply sexual person, but intimacy is about more than just physical connection for me.  Sex is just a part of intimacy.  If I am with you, it is because I want all of you.  If I only wanted a part, I wouldn't be there.  I will always honor your boundaries and treat you with respect.
• I can sometimes be hard to read. If you’re ever unsure about where I stand, please don’t hesitate to ask—I welcome open and honest communication.
• During times of stress or exhaustion, my energy might feel off or disconnected. Rest assured, it’s not about you, and I’ll always make an effort to realign and reconnect.
• I don’t always have the perfect words, but you can count on me to offer emotional support and stand by you no matter the circumstances.
• If I ever fail to meet expectations, just let me know and we'll work it out together.

DIVORCE

Why did my ex and I Divorce?

1. When we became parents, we unintentionally let our connection take a backseat. In hindsight, prioritizing regular date nights could have helped us nurture our bond amidst the demands of parenting.

2. Our communication styles were fundamentally different, and as life grew more complex, we struggled to find a rhythm that worked for both of us. This disconnect made it harder to navigate challenges together

3. Over time, our differences as individuals became more pronounced, especially as life introduced new layers of complexity. These differences made it difficult to align our paths and priorities.  We are very different people who never really got each other.

TRAITS

• Stoic
• Affectionate
• Sapiosexual
• Ambitious
• Calm under pressure
• Decisive
• Goal-driven
• Competitive
• Efficient
• Effective
• Analytical
• Logical
• Social
• Assertive
• Kind
• Loyal
• Open-minded
• Respectful
• Adventurous
• Passionate
• Romantic
• Giver of the benefit of the doubt
• Believer in chivalry.  I enjoy opening your doors, leading with you in my hand, and more.. as part of my masculinity.

DIMENSIONS

EFFORT

I’m the kind of man who shows up with purpose. I’ll plan the date, make the reservation, and walk on the street side of the sidewalk. After our first date, you can expect a text or call from me each day—not because I’m needy, but because consistency matters. It keeps the momentum going, builds trust, and helps us actually get to know each other. I believe in effort with intention—not pressure, not games. If there’s real chemistry, I’ll make sure you feel chosen, not just pursued.

SEXUALITY
I deeply appreciate the scent, presence, and energy of a woman, and I am naturally affectionate and very sexual. While I believe physical intimacy is an essential part of a relationship, I approach it with respect and understanding. Out of consideration for you, I wouldn’t rush into this aspect during the initial stages of getting to know one another. I may express my affection openly, but I always prioritize your comfort and boundaries. I lean toward being direct, but always in a way that respects and honors my partner. If I ever seem too affectionate or forward, just let me know—I’ll gladly adjust to make you feel at ease.

I have had women be disingenuous, touting a strong sex drive competing with mine only to be told later that we were having too much sex.  Please be honest and set realistic expectations, don't just tell me what I want to hear.

CONFLICT
Disagreements and conflicts are natural in any relationship, and I believe they offer an opportunity for growth and understanding. I don’t shy away when challenges arise—instead, I work through them with patience and a commitment to resolution. I seek a partner who shares this mindset and is willing to navigate tough times together. If a conflict or misunderstanding comes up, I encourage open, respectful dialogue. If I'm wrong, I welcome that feedback and I welcome learning from miscommunication, and I believe a calm and constructive approach can resolve almost anything.

As for jealousy, I simply don’t entertain it. Jealousy is a waste of time and energy.  I prefer to trust my partner and focus on what we can control, rather than stressing over hypotheticals.

CRITICISM
If I ever do something that upsets or offends you, I ask for patience and understanding in how it’s addressed. Approach me with the benefit of the doubt, and I promise to remain open, thoughtful, and eager to learn. I welcome feedback, whether it’s constructive criticism or guidance. I know I’m not perfect, but I strive to grow and understand different perspectives. I don’t take offense or react negatively to honest conversations, and I see criticism as an opportunity for self-improvement and deeper connection.

MASCULINITY

I subscribe to an old fashioned idea of masculinity, that balances with and supports its feminine counterpart.  

In my humble opinion, a real man:

• Puts service above self
• Takes care of his loved ones, friends
• Is generous
• Is calm, in control of himself
• Is a gentleman
• Imbues chivalry
• Apologizes when he is wrong
• Laughs and gets a kick out of insults intended to provoke him

And, in my humble opinion, a real man:

• Does NOT espouse violence or act violent
• Does NOT lose control of himself
• Does NOT put himself above others
• Does NOT demean nor diminish anyone elses dreams or goals or viewpoint
• Does NOT get provoked

HYPOTHETICAL SCENARIOS

Conflict: 

If I ever feel frustrated or upset about something, I believe in addressing it with kindness and respect. And, I give the benefit of the doubt. I would share my feelings calmly, always keeping in mind that I might have misunderstood or misinterpreted the situation. If the timing isn’t right to fully resolve the issue, we can revisit it later when we’re both in a better frame of mind. I see conflict as an opportunity to deepen understanding and build greater closeness in our relationship. 

A weekend together:

After we get out of bed, we make breakfast together.  We support each other in our independent work out routines.  Then, if we aren't going out with our own individual friends to hang out, we  travel fly somewhere, go for a hike, go kayaking, go to a museum, we do something fun.  We keep it easy for lunch but we watch what we eat. Evening time we snuggle together maybe watching TV or a movie, or reading together.  We make dinner together or one makes dinner, the other cleans the dishes.  We go out for the night to a party, gala or we host a party/get together at our place.  

The next day, much the same, except maybe during the day I'm getting some work done and you are too and both at home, we hang out through that.

FINAL NOTE

Dating can feel overwhelming and challenging, but it’s also an opportunity for growth and connection. This platform has been a valuable tool for both discovering meaningful introductions and identifying where there may not be alignment—whether it’s with individuals who might be emotionally unavailable, overly negative, or not in a place to foster a positive connection.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for taking the time to learn a bit about me. I welcome the opportunity to add more dimension and depth to what’s written here and explore whether we have chemistry.