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Generally speaking...

You’re physically fit, voluptuous, social, affectionate, got energy, got a playful edge (maybe some sass?). You smile, you laugh, you like to talk/talkative. And, you move with feminine grace & sophistication, refined in taking care of your hair and nails, a woman who knows she’s desired—and you thrive in it. 

Bonus points if you’ve got a sharp mind, strong opinions, and never ask for permission to speak or be yourself-- you own it.

Beauty on its own is everywhere. But beauty with depth, character, and discernment? That’s rare—and that’s what I notice.

Energy matters.  I shift gears. I build, I rest, I play, I lead. High energy when it’s time to move, laid-back when it’s time to flow. If you’ve got your own spark and your own drive, we’ll move well together. 

Low energy, Low standards, Low vision? Those people tend to struggle to keep up, as none of that fits in my world.

I am looking for a partner who has the following qualities:

• Curves: I find breast augmentation attractive and am happy to support that choice financially.  I admire women who confidently control their appearance in ways that make them feel empowered, expressing themselves artfully feminine, through this enhancement.
• Lifestyle/Physique: Fit, active.
• Self-Care: Takes pride in her appearance—skin, hair, nails—and values her mental/emotional well-being.
• Energy: A true co-pilot with fire and femininity—someone who can command a room yet lean into softness.
• Put together: Knows herself clearly, with a growth mindset.
• Emotional Intelligence: Emotionally available, past relationships resolved, unafraid of commitment.
• Primary Love Languages: Physical affection and quality time
• Communication: Open, respectful communicator, Active listener with the ability to ask insightful questions.  Capable of engaging in reciprocal conversation.
• Personality: Confident, radiates feminine energy, and fun-loving.
• Social Engagement: Is social, enjoys social activities and is comfortable in various social settings
• Conflict Resolution: Engages on and handles issues / disagreements through praoctive, respectful, constructive communication.

I’ve encountered several women missing the following non-negotiable requirements:

• Natural born (cis) woman
• You have a working vehicle (Uber / bus don't count)
• A residence (house, apartment, whatever)
• A job or you are working on securing a job.

Women who:

• Emotionally Retreat or Get Overwhelmed Easily
• Use Indirect Communication (Hints, Subtlety)
• Struggle Financially and Seek Rescue
• Aren’t Certain About Their Own Long-Term Goals

You’re drawn to a man who moves with purpose and with masculine certainty in what he wants, composed in how he leads. Power in his presence, not having to overcompensate by being loud. Generous without being a push over. In command, never controlling.  Passionate, with a sense of adventure.

You want a man who gives you the space to soften, to glow, to drop into your femininity without fear—and still match you when it’s time to rise.

You want to feel safe in every sense—emotionally steady, financially secure, physically protected. But so too, not just safe—alive. Mentally challenged. Turned on. Fully seen.

You crave more than luxury—you want luxury with intention.  

Stating expectations isn’t overthinking—it’s clarity.
Chemistry without compatibility is just a temporary high.  I'm in this for keeps. I’d rather set the tone upfront than waste time decoding mixed signals later. 

Here’s what I expect—and what I give in return:
– Emotional presence when it counts.
– Daily connection, even if brief—because consistency builds trust.
– Direct communication, especially when life gets full. No silent treatments, no games.
– When life hits hard, and it will, I want a partner who steps in—not one who vanishes or makes it about them.
– Unprovoked appreciation. Affection that flows naturally. I thrive on being seen and touched, not managed.
– Reliability. Especially when it’s inconvenient.
– Mutual respect with no double standards—for space, ambition, family, and finances.

My ideal first date involves no checklists, just playful positive ambitious energy... natural flow... from both sides.

Your first impression carries the same weight as my first impression.  No double standards.

But so too, no pressure-- but frankly, most dates I’ve had were boring.  A key part of that is that things felt one-sided: the other person not asking questions, not providing any playful or ambitious energy, just coasting like an entitled passenger. I owe nothing to that. A real connection feels like partnership, not a solo performance.  Boring does not create sexual tension, living does.

If one or both, of us, sense it's not the right fit, let’s say so—no pressure, no awkward fade-outs.  I'd rather know during the date, then we can pivot toward a potential friendship.  And, that friendship might lead to that romantic connection your or I are looking for.

• Name: RJ (I only go by RJ).  I'll let you know what the "RJ" stands for, if we hit it off.
• Nicknames: Dante, Hoby
• Height: 6'1"
• Location: Newport Beach, CA
• Profession: Investor & Senior Executive
• Projects: Advocate for Non-Partisan Education Reform
• Education: Bachelor's Degree
• Political Orientation: Independent thinker
• Religion: Spiritual / Guided by Christian ethics and morals
• Physical Attributes: Black hair, brown eyes

• Father to two daughters, ages 9 and 7, a youth mentor and host of a mentorship podcast. 
• Enjoys fitness & martial arts, as a musician plays the synthesizer, thrives in intellectual/meaningful conversations, appreciates humor, and living boldly by travel/adventure/experiences. 
• Leads, protects, provides. Trains hard, thinks independently, lives boldly. Emotionally grounded, financially stable, spiritually centered. Built for impact. Wired for adventure. 

• Women have appreciated my calmness and emotional intelligence as part of an environment fostered where women feel safe, seen, and supported. Every great partnership considers its audience—and mine has always been my future wife. She’s a key reason for my refinements.
• I didn’t change for women—I evolved for purpose. I worked to become the man I wish the world had more of. That is, Grounded. Driven. Honest. Emotionally fluent. Physically capable. Unapologetically masculine. I didn’t engineer myself to gain approval—I aligned myself with values I believe this world desperately needs. Turns out, that kind of man is rare.  I look forward to the day that will no longer be the case.

When it at least comes to these things, I will not let you down.

In a partnership, I commit to:

• Protector – Making sure you feel safe emotionally, mentally, physically, financially through my masculine protector energy, chivalry and also my hard work. Your feminine energy will be met, matched, and appreciated.
• Commitment: I don’t half-ass life. I build things that last—homes, companies, and relationships.  When I choose someone, I’m all in — I commit to what matters — whether it’s my work, my family, or my partner. If I’m building something with someone, it’s with intention and zero games.
• Stability:  I’ve done the work — emotionally, financially, spiritually. My life is structured, my vision is clear, and my word is reliable.  I’ve built a life with strong foundations. Emotionally grounded, financially secure, and future-focused. If chaos is your hobby, I’m not your guy — I bring calm, not drama.  
• Excitement: Always game for a challenge — whether it’s a mountain, a mastermind, or a moonlit escape.  Adventure isn’t just travel — it’s mindset. I like to push boundaries, explore new terrain, and make sure no day is too ordinary. Life’s short. I don’t waste it.
• Bold-ness: Buttoned-up in public, dangerous to those that hurt others.  I’ve been through hell, led in boardrooms and battles, and I still wake up calm. There’s power in restraint. I’m the guy others lean on when things get real.  I play by the rules — until I decide not to. I can flip the switch from composed to commanding when the moment calls for it.
• Affection & Appreciation: I express love through presence, touch, and attention. If you’re in my world, you’ll know you matter—because I’ll show you, not just say it.
• Leadership & Loyalty: I lead with calm strength. I protect what I build, and I make time for those who move with me. Loyalty isn’t conditional—it’s coded in.
• Decisive & Grounded: Under pressure, I don’t flinch. I move with logic, clarity, and precision. But when it’s time to play or connect—I’m all in. 
• Emotional Intelligence: I listen like a man who gives a damn. I don’t ghost, gaslight, or dodge. I show up fully—and expect the same.
• Driven, but Devoted: Yes, I’m a builder. An executive. A machine when it comes to my mission. But with the right woman? I’m loyal, romantic, and fully present.
• Shared Energy, Not Identical Interests: We don’t need to be carbon copies. But we move together. Moonlit drives. Mental challenges. Quiet mornings or wild nights—we create our rhythm.
• Support & Self-Care: I have no issue contributing to what makes you feel beautiful and confident—nails, hair, whatever helps you glow. When my woman shines, we both win.
• Legacy Vision: I don’t just live for the weekend. I build for generations. Family. Assets. Real estate. Freedom.
  My moves today protect our future tomorrow.
• Gentleman: Expect traditional romance—doors opened, I’ll plan the date, make the reservation, and walk on the street side of the sidewalk.  Part of the joy of being a man is doing things for my feminine partner.
• Man of Action: I'm the man who opens doors without being asked, leads you by the hand without hesitation, and never forgets that real masculinity protects, provides, and adores.  Why? Because it's not just about instinct, its part of the joy and energy of being a man.  I’m not the guy who disappears, particularly when the going gets tough. I’ll protect what we have—but only if we’re both showing up like it matters.

Together, we can build a partnership where:

• Synergy
  We don’t complete each other—we amplify each other. Together, we move farther, faster, stronger.
• Emotional Depth
  Honest conversations. Daily connection. No small talk.
• Chemistry That Lasts
  Emotional pull. Physical fire. That rare connection that doesn’t burn out—it deepens.
• Balanced Polarity
  You thrive in your feminine. I stay rooted in my masculine. That balance? That tension? That’s our rhythm.
• Adventure & Grounding
  We make space for both—spontaneous getaways and quiet nights where the world fades.
• Growth & Grit
  We sharpen each other. Push each other. Give space when space is needed and celebrate when it clicks.
• Family & Future
  We protect what matters. Care for our people. Build real wealth and legacy—not for show, but for stability.

You have my all. Whatever life you’ve imagined, the vision is to surpass it—for both of us. ;)

Let’s be that power couple ... Let's build something grand.

After our first date, expect to hear from me — daily. I believe in consistency, not guesswork.  Respond whenever you have time.  No pressure.

Simple progression from call to video chat to in-person. 

For me, geography won't hinder the right connection.

I lead with respect and move at a pace that feels grounded—not forced.  And, respectful of your boundaries.
But to be clear: if I’m taking you out, it’s with romantic intention. I’m not here to collect friends or kill time.

By the second date, we should both feel a spark—or know we won’t. If you're unsure, I’ll give it one more round. After that, I’d rather have honesty than gray area.

My friends describe me as ambitious, relentless, compassionate.  

Strengths Finders describes me as Command, Ideation, Strategic, Duty, & Responsibility.

DISC profile describes me as Creative, Dominant

Myers Briggs type is ENTJ: (The Commander) Extraversion, Intuition, Thinking, Judging.

My primary Love Languages are physical touch, then quality time, then words of appreciation.

Communication style: Assertive  

Enneagram: 1 (99% match), 3 (89% match), 8 (78% match), 2 (69% match), 4 (64% match), 6 (85% match), 5 (76% match), 7 (63% match), 9 (50% match)

Emotional Intelligence Test (PsychologyToday): 82% (82 out of 100)

Attachment Style: Secure Attachment

Top (5) Words to Describe Me: Competitive, Strategic, Commanding, Grounded, Dynamic

E-Colors: Forthcoming

I am divorced with two daughters, aged 9 and 7, who primarily live with their mother. I have them every other weekend.  We co-parent effectively, without issue.

I keep a tight inner circle—loyal, driven, and trustworthy people who inspire each other to be better.

If you have kids, that's fine with me.  I am open to 1-2 more kids but with the right person. Otherwise, I am indifferent as I already have two children.

I have over 20 years of experience as a senior executive in my industry, real estate & construction.  I design and build communities from the ground up--turning raw land into neighborhoods where families build their lives. It's high stakes, hands-on, and every inch has my fingerprint on it.

According to ChatGPT, below is a link of real and fictional personas that a woman might feel like she’s encountering when she meets me:

• Tony Stark (Iron Man)
• Harvey Specter (Suits)
• Bruce Wayne (Dark Knight Trilogy) 
• Robert McCall (The Equalizer) 

And, according to ChatGPT, below is a summary of real and fictional personas that a woman would NOT feel like she’s encountering when she meets me: 

• Ryan Gosling in ‘The Notebook’ or ‘La La Land’ - Too passive or artsy.
• Timothée Chalamet types - Ethereal and waify
• Captain America - I am more “build the empire” than “follow the rules.”
   

• Dancing: Salsa and ballroom — yes, I lead.
• Music: Jazz, soundtracks, classic rock. I play piano/synth and write original tracks.
• Mentorship: I guide young adults and fathers into a place of strength, purpose, and accountability.
• Martial Arts: Discipline. Movement. Control.
• Quantum Mechanics/Physics: I'm fascinated by what’s beneath the surface of our perceived reality.
• Philosophy: I’m fascinated by what & who we are and where we’re going.
• Humor: Dry, deadpan comedy is my guilty pleasure. Think Seinfeld or a brilliantly awkward silence.
• Fitness: Training is my meditation.
• Conversations: The deeper, the better — I don’t do small talk.
• Favorites:
• 🎵 “Supersonic” by Oasis, “California Love” by Tupac
• 🎥 It’s a Wonderful Life, The Shawshank Redemption
• 📺 Billions, Star Trek, Seinfeld, Parks & Rec, and documentaries on history, business, and the human mind

• Ideas that challenge the way we think & what we know — life, the science of quantum mechanics, and mind-bending “what ifs”
• Human behavior — why people do what they do, and how we evolve as individuals and societies
• History and Politics — from ancient empires to modern geopolitical concept and their merits
• Business and real estate — not just the deals, but the strategy and long game
• Spirituality — philosophy, what grounds us, and what gives life meaning

Whether we’re sharing laughs at a comedy club, engaged in deep conversation, or getting competitive over a board game and red wine — I’m all in.

Connection is my primary interest—the activities merely set the stage. 

I am intent on saving the world, in my own way... starting with education reform.  That is, disrupting education through wealth & discourse.  I believe the next generation deserves more than debt, confusion, and broken systems. I want my daughters — and all kids — to grow up in a world where they’re empowered, prepared, and protected.

If you're the kind of woman who wants more than comfort — someone who wants meaning, momentum, and a future we’re proud to create — we’ll speak the same language.

• Watching sports (I’m more into action than spectating — but I’ll make an exception for you.)
• Seafood (Not my favorite, but I’ll still go out with you. Might even try a bite… no promises.)
• Chronic lateness without a heads-up
• Shallow small talk — I like real conversations, not just filler
• One-sided effort — if I’m the only one asking questions, I’m out
• Assumptions, snap judgments, or generalizations
• Smoking

• I’ll sometimes look away mid-thought — not out of disinterest, but because I’m using the logical side of my brain to connect deeper dots before I speak. When I answer, I want it to be very clear.

I’ve been told I can come across as intimidating or hard to read, at first, especially when I’m deep in thought or pushing through a stressful week. 

• If you’re someone who values substance over flash, a man who lives in alignment with his words, and recognizes that the best investments take a second look, we’re already aligned. The right partnership isn’t built in a glance—it’s earned in depth, trust, and performance over time.
• I’m not for the woman chasing the thrill of her own chemical reactions, which are heavily dependent on her own current state of mind. I’m for the one who senses there’s more underneath.

• When I’m passionate about something, I tend to sometimes dominate the conversation. If I do, feel free to speak up. I value women who bring energy and insight to the table.
• I’m a deeply sexual person, but intimacy to me is about more than just physical connection. If I choose you, it’s because I want all of you — your mind, your energy, your heart. And, I will honor your boundaries.
• I’m calm and steady by nature, and sometimes that makes me seem hard to read. If you ever wonder where I stand — ask.
• When life throws stress my way, I might get quiet — not distant, just realigning. I’ll always make the effort to reconnect and stay grounded with you.
• I may not always have the perfect words, but you can count on me to offer emotional support and stand by you.
• If I ever fail to meet expectations, just let me know and we'll work it out together.

• My last relationship was about 15 years. Why did my ex and I Divorce? We lost our connection after becoming parents, struggled with mismatched communication & personalities, and grew apart as our differences became more impactful over time.

• I’d like to get re-married one day.  Hence, I date with intention.

• I’ve never been arrested, No DUIs, Never hit anyone with my car.
• Last time I got a traffic ticket was a “California stop” over 20 years ago.
• Heads up: There's someone in Orange County with a similar name who has a restraining order—that's definitely not me.  I do not know him and I do not know the other party.

Right now, other than my kids, my free-time, my dating, I'm house shopping and planning for my birthday.

Everyone says communication matters. Few actually practice it.

What I value is simple: if something’s off, speak. If something’s unclear, ask.
Don’t disappear. Don’t sugarcoat. Don’t bury it.
Most things—misunderstandings, mismatches, missed signals—are fixable with clarity and intent.

We don’t need to have identical communication styles or cultural backgrounds. We just need the willingness to sync up.
That takes awareness. Patience. Emotional strength.

Two people can be perfectly aligned—but if neither speaks their truth, it falls apart for no reason.

If you’re the kind of woman who can speak openly, listen deeply, and hold space for real honesty—especially when it’s uncomfortable—then you’re exactly the type I want to build with.

I move with an old-school kind of masculinity—the kind that doesn’t compete with femininity, but protects it, honors it, and draws power from its presence.

A real man doesn’t posture. He provides. He leads with service, not ego.
He takes care of his people, acts with generosity, stays calm when pressure hits, and owns his missteps without excuse.

He doesn’t need to be loud to be respected.
He doesn’t break others down to feel strong.
And he knows that real power isn’t force—it’s restraint, precision, and presence.

Modern dating’s full of contradictions.
Be available—but not too soon.
Be strong—but not too cold.
Show you care—but act like you don’t. Play coy.

I don’t move like that.

I’m masculine, grounded, and emotionally present. 

I heard a quote "The power in all relationships lies in whomever cares less. The power isnt happiness.  I think that maybe happiness cromes from caring more about people rather than less." I don’t fake disinterest to bait attention.  I don’t pretend not to care to gain control. That’s not strength—that’s insecurity wearing strategy.

I don’t perform. I connect.

Between two otherwise same guys, one guy plays "hard to get" and another guy is emotionally open-- the guy playing "hard to get" is just playing with your emotions. That's not sexy, that's manipulation.

If I feel something, I’ll express it (because I mean it) clearly, calmly, and without pressure. I read the moment, respect your pace, and lead without force. You don’t have to match my pace — but you’ll never have to guess where I stand.

If you’re a woman who values emotional depth and masculine leadership in the same man—we’re already speaking the same language.

I wish women appreciated how hard it is for us men to make a woman feel safe, in a dynamic environment, & around a strong man, whilst being vulnerable ourselves.  It's a tight-rope walk.

Anyone saying differently is selling something.

I think what is lost on people is the fragility of living, of partnership, of the amazing set of circumstances that had to lock into place for two people to meet.  It looks easy but it was years in the making, most of it outside of our control, a 1 in a billion type of gig. 

It's been more than once that I've been called the “perfect man”—just before they bolt.
Apparently, clarity, confidence, and intentionality are attractive in theory, but terrifying, to some, in practice. If you’re emotionally mature enough to embrace a real connection without flinching when it gets meaningful, we’ll get along perfectly.

Yeah, chemistry’s essential.
Physical, emotional, mental, spiritual—it all counts.
The fire might hit instantly, or it might build slow and deep. 

Whether the passion hits instantly or builds over time, what matters to me is that there’s connection across all the key dimensions—even if just in part.  For something to last, there needs to be at least some connection across all dimensions—emotional, intellectual, physical, and beyond.

And, a smart long term connection does not just rely on a first impression.

If something feels off, say it. Most things can be cleared up with one honest conversation.
But if it’s not clicking, no hard feelings. I’m not here to convince—I’m here to connect.

I’ve met women who came with chaos—addictions, legal battles, no direction, no drive. Some wanted to be pampered without offering substance.
Some tried to mold me into their ideal.
Some showed up as someone else entirely—until the mask slipped.

One even made a commitment… only to cut the cord when it finally got real.
Let me be clear: I’ve never put a woman through what I’ve walked through.
And with some, I came out worse than I walked in.

So when I say I don’t enjoy dating, that’s not cynicism—it’s earned clarity.

What I do value is truth more than comfort. Give me clarity over ghosting. Feedback over silence.
If after a first date—or a relationship—it’s not clicking, that’s fine. Just say so.

Not just from personal experience but seeing others, people seem to give up way too easily and aren't willing to do the work, when the entire point of a relationship is to do the work--- but together. Relationships take work. That’s the point.
Even when the connection’s strong, the commitment’s what carries it.  No matter how great the connection is, there's still going to be work.

And if nothing else, my goal is simple:
If you’ve spent time with me, even if it didn’t work out, we are each better for it.

I'm passionate, expressive, and comfortable moving forward with intention. I will thrive best with a woman who is:

• Emotionally secure
  She’s done inner work, healed past relationship wounds, and feels safe enough to dive in headfirst emotionally without pulling back out of anxiety or insecurity.
• Open and direct communicator
  A woman who clearly communicates feelings, boundaries, and comfort levels. I don't like passive-aggressiveness or subtlety—she should speak her mind candidly yet respectfully.
• Comfortable with intimacy
  Someone who is confident and comfortable embracing emotional intimacy. She needs to find emotional intensity exciting rather than overwhelming.
• Romantically confident
  She should not panic or retreat when I share strong feelings or affectionate gestures early. Rather, she feels comfortable reciprocating naturally and at her own pace, regardless of mine.

If one of us catches deeper feelings first, that’s not a problem — as long as we’re both communicating honestly and moving forward with intention. Real connection doesn’t always move in sync — it just has to move with respect.

As for jealousy? I don’t entertain it. If we’re together, I trust you. I’d rather focus on what we’re building than waste energy & create stress focused on hypotheticals.

I’m naturally affectionate and value physical intimacy, but I approach it with respect and patience. The total connection is more important to me than the act itself. I honor boundaries and am always open to adjusting if I come on too strong.

We might be dating or in a relationship, but we’ll still need our own space. I’m not possessive, and you are not my property, I never want you to feel that way. If I ever call you ‘my’ anything, it’s just a term of affection, nothing more.

I’m here for commitment—grounded and built with intention.

I do not ask a woman to enter into a relationship, with me, until I am sure I can honor it fully.

A commitment with me looks like this: 

Mutual respect. Emotional depth. Growth—both individual and shared.

We move as a unit.
We back each other’s visions.
We keep the spark alive—not with gimmicks, but with presence, passion, and purpose.

This isn’t about obligation.
It’s about waking up and choosing each other—daily.
Because we want to.
And because we know what we’re building is rare.

I admire someone who wants to sort through things together, not sweep them under the rug or bolt at the first bump. I believe the strongest bonds are built by talking through things, not avoiding them.

I have committed to and loved a few women in my life and they still have my respect.  Because they chose me, and we chose eachother and we built each other up. 

I believe in clarity, so if it feels like we’re headed toward a relationship, I’ll ask toward making it official.   To me, being in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship isn’t about labels, it’s about clarity, respect, and commitment. We each still have our own space, our own friends, our own lives.  No demands, no unreasonable expectations. Just means that we agree to solely date eachother, that we are there for each other, and at least for some sort of contact daily (text/call/whatever). 

You’ll never have to question where I stand or whether I’m still looking around, because I believe in building with one person, not scattering my attention. It doesn’t mean rushing into forever, it means creating a safe, supportive space where trust, fun, and passion can grow naturally. If we’re together, I’m all in on us.

I see conflict as an opportunity for growth, if handled effectively. I stay calm, give the benefit of the doubt, and stay open to feedback. Misunderstandings don’t rattle me, they reveal where deeper connection can happen.

I’m not looking for perfect communication, 

just honest communication.
If something’s wrong—whether it’s something I did or something you're feeling—I want you to know you can tell me directly. I won’t shut down, get defensive, make you regret your honesty, or throw it back at you. I’ll listen, I’ll try to understand, and I’ll take responsibility where it’s mine.

I’m attracted to emotional maturity. To someone who’s willing to work through challenges instead of giving up when it gets uncomfortable. 

My best match would have a lifestyle that aligns closely with mine, minimizing stress points like:

• Financial Stability & Ambition
  I'm driven, successful, ambitious, and established. A woman who's also financially stable, ambitious, or secure in her career goals would align perfectly. I appreciate supporting a partner, but I will match best with someone who enjoys contributing, building, or co-creating financial security together.
• Similar Values around Family & Parenting
  I am deeply committed to my kids, so the ideal partner should also be a nurturing parent or supportive of my role as a father. 
• High Emotional Intelligence & Independence
  A woman who’s emotionally intelligent, self-sufficient, and strong-minded—able to give me space for my projects and passions, while confidently pursuing her own interests and career goals.
• Balanced Alpha Energy
  She’s strong, driven, and confident (an "alpha" herself), but comfortable balancing this with feminine vulnerability. She won't feel threatened by my strength—she embraces it, complements it, and matches it without competing.
• Comfortable with Luxury and Achievement
  A woman who appreciates (but isn’t defined by) finer things. She respects my success and ambition, understands the pressures involved, and willingly supports me emotionally (reciprocal) through the ups and downs.

Let’s Talk (For Real)
I’m going to ask you what your favorite topics are to talk about. If your answer is “I can talk about everything,” we’re not going to be aligned. No one—myself included—knows everything. I’m not looking to lecture or teach; I’m looking to exchange ideas with someone who brings something to the table, even at a high level.

Substance Matters
Intelligence is sexy.  If you lean on looks and vibes alone, but can’t back up your opinions with insight, experience, or curiosity—this won’t work. Emotional maturity is required. The bar is real connection, depth, and the ability to challenge and be challenged with respect.

Not everything written online or conveyed through third parties ever reflects the full story.  Among other things, it can reflect someone else’s unresolved, false, or one-sided story.   Especially when emotions or misunderstandings get involved.  If you ever come across something, I ask for one thing: perspective. I’d rather you ask me about it and let me respond.  I’m not afraid of questions.  That’s how I live — and how I lead.

We start slow.
You stretch or hit your workout while I make breakfast—fueling up for the day ahead, side by side.
Then we move—something active, something that gets the blood pumping and the senses lit.

Afternoons are for us or for the few we let close.
Music up. Doors open. Sunlight pouring in while we reset the pace together.

When the sun drops?
Sometimes we’re out—dressed sharp, tuned in, owning the room.
Other nights, it’s you and me—wine in hand, something timeless playing low, and no need to fill the silence.

We laugh. We touch.
We move through the day with ease, even in the little things—cooking, cleaning, talking about nothing.
Because the weight of life feels lighter when it’s done together.
I’m building a life where passion, peace, and partnership all have their place.
Lived fully. Side by side.

Let’s build. Try. Lead. Explore. Create. Host. Experience.— together.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you!

Now you know where I stand.

I’m not here to impress—I’m here to connect.
Truth shows itself eventually, so I’d rather lead with it.
If we’re not aligned, better to know now than waste time pretending.

If you want to be and feel safe, wanted, inspired, supported, seen, and fiercely alive—in a partnership grounded in trust, chemistry and mutual respect--then let’s talk. 

And if I'm not the right fit for you — no hard feelings.  I wish you well.

Now , it's your move.

Are you In or are you Out?