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You’re fit, voluptuous, social, affectionate, and love being adored. You thrive in your femininity, take pride in how you present yourself, and strike that rare blend of glamour, sophistication, and playful edge.

Bonus points if you’ve got a sharp mind, strong opinions, and never ask for permission to speak or be yourself-- you own it.

Physical beauty is abundant—but without depth, character, or ethics, it quickly loses appeal. I value both visible beauty and the inner beauty one can trust.

I am looking for a partner who has the following qualities:

• Curves: I find breast augmentation attractive and am happy to support that choice financially, admiring women who confidently control their appearance in ways that make them feel empowered, expressing themselves artfully feminine, through this enhancement.
• Lifestyle/Physique: Fit and active.
• Self-Care: Takes pride in her appearance—glowing skin, healthy hair, polished presence—and values her mental and emotional well-being.
• Energy: A true co-pilot with fire and femininity—someone who can command a room yet lean into softness.
• Put together: Knows herself clearly, with a growth mindset.
• Emotional Intelligence: Emotionally available, past relationships resolved, unafraid of commitment.
• Primary Love Languages: Physical affection and quality time
• Communication: Open, respectful communicator, Active listener with the ability to ask insightful questions.  Capable of engaging in reciprocal conversation.
• Personality: Social, confident in groups, radiates feminine energy, and fun-loving.
• Social Engagement: Enjoys social activities and is comfortable in various social settings
• Energies: Comfortable in silence, appreciating each other's presence.
• Conflict Resolution: Handles disagreements through constructive communication

Women who:

• Emotionally Retreat or Get Overwhelmed Easily
  If she frequently expresses anxiety about pace or intensity, it’s a mismatch.
• Use Indirect Communication
  Women who hint, play games, or avoid tough conversations frustrate me. Direct, mature, and explicit communication is key.
• Struggle Financially and Seek Rescue
  I avoid those predominantly seeking security rather than partnership—those relationships become transactional rather than emotionally satisfying.
• Aren’t Clear About Long-Term Goals
  Women uncertain about commitment, family, marriage, or lifestyle aspirations won’t match my clear vision.

You are seeking a man who knows precisely what he wants, moves with masculine clarity, and remains composed under pressure—power without ego, generosity without dependency, leadership without controlling behavior.

You desire a man who will make you feel safe—emotionally calm, financially secure, physically grounded—and ignited—mentally challenged, passionately alive, and fully seen.
With someone you will feel secure enough to radiate your femininity—and empowered enough to match energies.

You crave luxury with meaning, purposeful adventure, passion devoid of drama, and most importantly—a man who sees you without revolving around you.

Clearly communicated expectations aren't about overthinking but intentionality.

Too often, people chase chemistry before checking compatibility—like test-driving a car before checking if it runs on the fuel you use.

Stating expectations upfront prevents confusion and enhances connection. Unspoken assumptions breed false hope and confusion.

My straightforward expectations:

• Emotional support in critical moments.
• Daily communication, even brief.
• Transparent communication when busy.
• No yelling, passive-aggression, or mind games—direct, respectful communication instead.
• When life hits hard, I want a partner who asks, ‘How can I help?’ Not one who takes it personally or disappears.
• Mutual appreciation and affection without prompting.  I thrive when I feel appreciated and touched.
• Reliability and consistency, especially during challenges.
• Respect, without double standards, for personal space and each other's lives, families, goals, and finances.

Emotional Safety & Real Talk Matter to Me
I’m the kind of man who values honest communication over guessing games. If something feels off—whether I accidentally said something that didn’t land right, or you’re just not feeling the connection the same way—I deeply respect a woman who can voice that openly. I admire someone who wants to sort through things together, not sweep them under the rug or bolt at the first bump. I believe the strongest bonds are built by talking through things, not avoiding them. Silence breeds assumptions. Conversation builds clarity—and connection.

I’m not the guy who disappears, particularly when the going gets tough. I’ll protect what we have—but only if we’re both showing up like it matters.

• Name: RJ (I only go by RJ).  I'll let you know what the "RJ" stands for, if we hit it off.
• Nicknames: Dante, Hoby
• Height: 6'1"
• Location: Newport Beach, CA
• Profession: Investor & Senior Executive
• Projects: Advocate for Non-Partisan Education Reform
• Education: Bachelor's Degree
• Political Orientation: Independent thinker
• Religion: Spiritual / Guided by Christian ethics and morals
• Physical Attributes: Black hair, brown eyes

• Father to two daughters, ages 9 and 7, a youth mentor and host of a mentorship podcast. 
• Enjoys fitness & martial arts, as a musician plays the synthesizer, thrives in intellectual/meaningful conversations, appreciates humor, and living boldly by travel/adventure/experiences. 
• Leads, protects, provides. Trains hard, thinks independently, lives boldly. Emotionally grounded, financially stable, spiritually centered. Built for impact. Wired for adventure. Expect traditional romance—doors opened, I’ll plan the date, make the reservation, and walk on the street side of the sidewalk.
• Women have appreciated the calmness and emotional intelligence as part of an environment fostered where women feel safe, seen, and supported.

When it at least comes to these things, I will not let you down.

In a partnership, I commit to:

• Protector – Making sure you feel safe emotionally, mentally, physically, financially through my masculine protector energy, chivalry and also my hard work. Your feminine energy will be met, matched, and appreciated.
• Commitment: I don’t half-ass life. I build things that last—homes, companies, and relationships.  When I choose someone, I’m all in — I commit to what matters — whether it’s my work, my family, or my partner. If I’m building something with someone, it’s with intention and zero games.
• Stability:  I’ve done the work — emotionally, financially, spiritually. My life is structured, my vision is clear, and my word is reliable.  I’ve built a life with strong foundations. Emotionally grounded, financially secure, and future-focused. If chaos is your hobby, I’m not your guy — I bring calm, not drama.  
• Excitement: Always game for a challenge — whether it’s a mountain, a mastermind, or a moonlit escape.  Adventure isn’t just travel — it’s mindset. I like to push boundaries, explore new terrain, and make sure no day is too ordinary. Life’s short. I don’t waste it.
• Bold-ness: Buttoned-up in public, dangerous to those that hurt others.  I’ve been through hell, led in boardrooms and battles, and I still wake up calm. There’s power in restraint. I’m the guy others lean on when things get real.  I play by the rules — until I decide not to. I can flip the switch from composed to commanding when the moment calls for it.
• Affection: Expressing love and appreciation
• Appreciation: Valuing and recognizing your contributions
• Leadership & Loyalty – I lead with calm strength and prioritize/make time for those I care about.
• Decisive: Decisive under pressure, grounded in logic, and relentless about my ambitions — but I still know how to hold space, play, and make someone feel seen.
• Emotional Intelligence – I show up fully. I listen deeply. I invest in real connection. 
• Workhorse: An executive workhorse, yes — but also loyal, romantic, affectionate, and fully present with the woman I choose. 
• Adventure / Activities – From moonlit escapes to mental challenges, let's rock. We don't have to have the same exact hobbies or interests, but we do things together.
• Self-Care: I’m happy to cover things like hair and nails to help you feel confident and sexy.
• Long-Term Vision: Building and ensuring a future for the family and building an investment & real estate portfolio 
• Man of Action: I'm the man who opens doors without being asked, leads you by the hand without hesitation, and never forgets that real masculinity protects, provides, and adores.  Why? Because it's not just about instinct, its part of the joy and energy of being a man. 

Together, we can build a partnership where:

• Synergy: We create something greater than either of us could do alone.  The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
• Emotional Connection: Authentic conversations, daily check-ins, and meaningful moments.
• Chemistry: We share deep emotional connection, effortless chemistry, and the kind of physical affection that doesn’t fade.
• Balanced Energies: Your feminine energy thriving, matched by my masculine strength.
• Adventure and Comfort: From spontaneous weekend getaways to quiet nights sharing dreams and laughter.
• Growth Mindset: We challenge each other and support each other’s growth. 
• Family Support: We care for our families, build generational wealth, and show up as true partners — not just in public, but when no one’s watching.

Imagine:

• Safety and passion—You’ll feel both emotionally calm and passionately alive.
• Respect and admiration—You’ll be seen, appreciated, and adored.
• Partnership and strength—You’ll never question where you stand, because clarity and consistency are my default.

Let’s be that power couple ... Let's build something grand.

After our first date, expect to hear from me — daily. I believe in consistency, not guesswork.  Respond whenever you have time.  No pressure.

Simple progression from call to video chat to in-person. 

Geography won't hinder the right connection.

Respectful progression, comfortable pace. I won’t push beyond what you're comfortable with.

As for first dates — I don’t kiss or sleep with someone that night. That’s not about holding back—it’s about being intentional.

My friends describe me as ambitious, relentless, compassionate.  

Strengths Finders describes me as Command, Ideation, Strategic, Duty, & Responsibility.

DISC profile describes me as Creative, Dominant

Myers Briggs type is ENTJ: (The Commander) Extraversion, Intuition, Thinking, Judging.

My primary Love Languages are physical touch, then quality time, then words of appreciation.

Communication style: Assertive  

Enneagram: 1 (99% match), 3 (89% match), 8 (78% match), 2 (69% match), 4 (64% match), 6 (85% match), 5 (76% match), 7 (63% match), 9 (50% match)

Emotional Intelligence Test (PsychologyToday): 82% (82 out of 100)

Attachment Style: Secure Attachment

E-Colors: Forthcoming

I am divorced with two daughters, aged 9 and 7, who primarily live with their mother. I have them every other weekend.  We co-parent effectively, without issue.

I keep a tight inner circle—loyal, driven, and trustworthy people who inspire each other to be better.

If you have kids, that's fine with me.  I am open to 1-2 more kids but with the right person. Otherwise, I am indifferent as I already have two children.

I have over 20 years of experience as a senior executive in my industry, real estate & construction.  I design and build communities from the ground up--turning raw land into neighborhoods where families build their lives. It's high stakes, hands-on, and every inch has my fingerprint on it.

• Dancing: Salsa and ballroom — yes, I lead.
• Music: Jazz, soundtracks, classic rock. I play piano/synth and write original tracks.
• Mentorship: I guide young adults and fathers into a place of strength, purpose, and accountability.
• Martial Arts: Discipline. Movement. Control.
• Quantum Mechanics/Physics: I'm fascinated by what’s beneath the surface of reality.
• Philosophy: I’m fascinated by what we are, where we’re going.
• Humor: Dry, deadpan comedy is my guilty pleasure. Think Seinfeld or a brilliantly awkward silence.
• Fitness: Training is my meditation.
• Conversations: The deeper, the better — I don’t do small talk.
• Favorites:
• 🎵 “Supersonic” by Oasis, “California Love” by Tupac
• 🎥 It’s a Wonderful Life, The Shawshank Redemption
• 📺 Billions, Star Trek, Seinfeld, Parks & Rec, and documentaries on history, business, and the human mind

• Ideas that challenge the way we think — philosophy, quantum theory, and mind-bending “what ifs”
• Human behavior — why people do what they do, and how we evolve as individuals and societies
• History and Politics — from ancient empires to modern geopolitical concept and their merits
• Business and real estate — not just the deals, but the strategy and long game
• Spirituality — what grounds us, and what gives life meaning

Whether we’re sharing laughs at a comedy club, engaged in deep conversation, or getting competitive over a board game and red wine — I’m all in.

Connection is my primary interest—the activities merely set the stage. 

I’m building a life that leaves the world better than I found it — starting with education reform.  That is, disrupting education through wealth & discourse.  I believe the next generation deserves more than debt, confusion, and broken systems. I want my daughters — and all kids — to grow up in a world where they’re empowered, prepared, and protected.

If you're the kind of woman who wants more than comfort — someone who wants meaning, momentum, and a future we’re proud to create — we’ll speak the same language.

• Watching sports (I’m more into action than spectating — but I’ll make an exception for you.)
• Seafood (Not my favorite, but I’ll still go out with you. Might even try a bite… no promises.)
• Chronic lateness without a heads-up
• Shallow small talk — I like real conversations, not just filler
• One-sided effort — if I’m the only one asking questions, I’m out
• Assumptions, snap judgments, or generalizations
• Smoking

• I’ll sometimes look away mid-thought — not out of disinterest, but because I’m connecting deeper dots before I speak. When I answer, I want it to be very clear.

• When I’m passionate about something, I tend to sometimes take the wheel in conversation. If I do, feel free to speak up. I value women who bring energy and insight to the table.
• I’m a deeply sexual person, but intimacy to me is about more than just physical connection. If I choose you, it’s because I want all of you — your mind, your energy, your heart. However, I will honor your boundaries.
• I’m calm and steady by nature, and sometimes that makes me seem hard to read. If you ever wonder where I stand — ask.
• When life throws stress my way, I might get quiet — not distant, just realigning. I’ll always make the effort to reconnect and stay grounded with you.
• I may not always have the perfect words, but you can count on me to offer emotional support and stand by you.
• If I ever fail to meet expectations, just let me know and we'll work it out together.

• My last relationship was about 15 years. Why did my ex and I Divorce? We lost our connection after becoming parents, struggled with mismatched communication, and grew apart as our differences became clearer over time.

• I’d like to get re-married one day.  Hence, I date with intention.

• I’ve never been arrested, No DUIs, Never hit anyone with my car, and the last time I got a traffic ticket was a “California stop” over 20 years ago.
• Heads up: There's someone in Orange County with a similar name who has a restraining order—that's definitely not me.  I do not know him and I do not know the other party.

Everyone says communication is key—yet so few actually communicate. My biggest frustration is people who say communication is important but don’t actually communicate-- such as speaking up when something’s bothering them, leaving issues unresolved and misunderstandings unaddressed. Life happens, mistakes happen, misunderstandings happen—almost everything is fixable or at least negotiable.   You could have two people perfect for eachother, and each has different learning styles and communication styles. I would figure out a way to sync up with learning and communication styles, not give up just because it took some extra work.  Even cross-cultural or cross-contextually, communication may take work but it is important work. If you’re willing to speak openly, listen sincerely, and embrace honesty—even when it’s challenging—you’re exactly who I’m hoping to meet.

I subscribe to an old-fashioned kind of masculinity — the kind that doesn’t compete with femininity, but balances it, protects it, and draws strength from it.

To me, a real man leads with service, not ego. He takes care of his people, acts with generosity, and stays calm under pressure. He owns his mistakes, walks with discipline, and finds humor where others would get triggered.

He doesn’t need to raise his voice to be heard. He doesn’t tear others down to feel strong. And he never forgets that real power lies in restraint, clarity, and presence.

Modern dating sends mixed signals. Be emotionally available — but not too soon. Be strong — but not cold. Show you care — but don’t show it.

Here’s where I stand:
I’m masculine, grounded, and emotionally present.  I have no interest in playing games or being fake.

I don’t play coy. I don’t fake disinterest to bait attention. That’s not strength — that’s strategy dressed as insecurity.  And, I’m not here to perform. I’m here for connection — grounded, honest, and real.

Between two otherwise same guys, one guy plays "hard to get" and another guy is emotionally open-- the guy playing "hard to get" is just playing with your emotions. That's not sexy, that's manipulation.

If I feel something, I’ll express it (because I mean it) but respectfully, getting a gauge for your level of comfort and calibrating accordingly. You don’t have to match my pace — but you’ll never have to guess where I stand.

What matters most? That we both show up. No masks. No games. No timelines. 

If you’re an emotionally available woman who values emotional depth and masculine leadership in the same man — we’re already speaking the same language.

I wish women appreciated how safe I try to make them feel—emotionally, mentally, and relationally.  That women appreciated how rare it is to find a man who can handle the truth without blowing up or shutting down. I don’t run from uncomfortable conversations—I lean in and learn.  I believe problems should be worked through, not walked away from.  I just wish more people saw that as something worth holding onto instead of testing or walking away from.

It's been more than once that I've been called the “perfect man”—just before they bolt.
Apparently, clarity, confidence, and intentionality are attractive in theory, but terrifying, to some, in practice. If you’re emotionally mature enough to embrace a real connection without flinching when it gets meaningful, we’ll get along perfectly.

I’m not perfect—I’m just perfectly clear about what I want. If you are too, you know exactly what to do next.

I think what is lost on people is the fragility of living, of partnership, of the amazing set of circumstances that had to lock into place for two people to meet.  It looks easy but it was years in the making, most of it outside of our control, a 1 in a billion type of gig.  If there is a spark, a glimmer... two people can face anything, by taking life as it is-- dirty and rough, but made beautiful by not giving up and standing by each other.

Naturally, chemistry is a key aspect to a romantic relationship.  There's physical chemistry and there's also mental, spiritual, emotional, etc chemistry.  Physical chemistry may shift over time, but for something to last, there needs to be at least some spark across all dimensions—emotional, intellectual, physical, and beyond.

Whether the passion hits instantly or builds over time, what matters to me is that there’s connection across all the key dimensions—even if just in part.

If something feels off, or you're just not feeling "it," speak up—chances are, it's just a misunderstanding we can easily clear up. But if it's really not clicking, no worries. I'm not everyone's cup of tea—and I'm good with that.

I’ve encountered women with serious issues—addictions, legal troubles (trial kind of stuff), lack of stability or ambition, self-absorption—who expected to be pampered without offering anything meaningful in return, want to change me to suit them, "cat fish" me, and one that made a commitment to me only to abruptly cut the string of stringing me along.  I can confidently say I have never put a woman though the things I have experienced.  Around some, I've come out worse off.

So when I say I do not enjoy dating, it comes from experience.

If things don’t work out between us after the first date or post relationship, that’s ok—open communication is all I ask for.  That's an opportunity, and I appreciate constructive feedback before anyone calls it quits.

If anything, my intention is that, worse case, after time with me you will be better off than you would have been otherwise.  

Not just from personal experience but seeing others, people seem to give up way too easily and aren't willing to do the work, when the entire point of a relationship is to do the work--- but together.  No matter how great the connection is, there's still going to be work.

I'm passionate, expressive, and comfortable moving forward with intention. I will thrive best with a woman who is:

• Emotionally secure
  She’s done inner work, healed past relationship wounds, and feels safe enough to dive in headfirst emotionally without pulling back out of anxiety or insecurity.
• Open and direct communicator
  A woman who clearly communicates feelings, boundaries, and comfort levels. I don't like passive-aggressiveness or subtlety—she should speak her mind candidly yet respectfully.
• Comfortable with intimacy
  Someone who is confident and comfortable embracing emotional intimacy. She needs to find emotional intensity exciting rather than overwhelming.
• Romantically confident
  She should not panic or retreat when I share strong feelings or affectionate gestures early. Rather, she feels comfortable reciprocating naturally and at her own pace, regardless of mine.

If one of us catches deeper feelings first, that’s not a problem — as long as we’re both communicating honestly and moving forward with intention. Real connection doesn’t always move in sync — it just has to move with respect.

As for jealousy? I don’t entertain it. If we’re together, I trust you. I’d rather focus on what we’re building than waste energy on hypotheticals.

I’m naturally affectionate and value physical intimacy, but I approach it with respect and patience. The total connection is more important to me than the act itself. I honor boundaries and am always open to adjusting if I come on too strong.

I have had women be disingenuous, touting a strong sex drive competing with mine, only to be told later that we were having too much sex.  Please be honest and set realistic expectations, don't just tell me what I want to hear.

I’m here for commitment — regardless of labels, a partnership grounded in mutual respect, emotional connection, individual and shared growth, building us both up.  One where we move as a team, support each other’s visions, and keep the spark alive through presence, passion, and purpose. And, we choose each other daily, work on this daily — not from obligation, but genuine desire.

I do not enter into a relationship until I am sure I can honor it fully.

I have committed to and loved a few women in my life and they still have my respect.  Because they chose me, and we chose eachother and we built each other up.  That has been my experience.

I see conflict as an opportunity for growth, if handled effectively. I stay calm, give the benefit of the doubt, and stay open to feedback. Misunderstandings don’t rattle me, they reveal where deeper connection can happen.

I’m not looking for perfect communication, 

just honest communication.
If something’s wrong—whether it’s something I did or something you're feeling—I want you to know you can tell me directly. I won’t shut down, get defensive, or throw it back at you. I’ll listen, I’ll try to understand, and I’ll take responsibility where it’s mine.

I’m attracted to emotional maturity. To someone who’s willing to work through challenges instead of giving up when it gets uncomfortable. I don’t play games, I don’t punish honesty, and I don’t need you to walk on eggshells.

I just need you to feel safe being real with me—because that’s the only way this becomes something real.  So if something feels off, just say it — I’ll do the same. No need for drama or awkwardness, just clarity.

My best match would have a lifestyle that aligns closely with mine, minimizing stress points like:

• Financial Stability & Ambition
  I'm driven, successful, ambitious, and established. A woman who's also financially stable, ambitious, or secure in her career goals would align perfectly. I appreciate supporting a partner, but I will match best with someone who enjoys contributing, building, or co-creating financial security together.
• Similar Values around Family & Parenting
  I am deeply committed to my kids, so the ideal partner should also be a nurturing parent or supportive of my role as a father. 
• High Emotional Intelligence & Independence
  A woman who’s emotionally intelligent, self-sufficient, and strong-minded—able to give me space for my projects and passions, while confidently pursuing her own interests and career goals.
• Balanced Alpha Energy
  She’s strong, driven, and confident (an "alpha" herself), but comfortable balancing this with feminine vulnerability. She won't feel threatened by my strength—she embraces it, complements it, and matches it without competing.
• Comfortable with Luxury and Achievement
  A woman who appreciates (but isn’t defined by) finer things. She respects my success and ambition, understands the pressures involved, and willingly supports me emotionally (reciprocal) through the ups and downs.

We all have a past — and not everything written online reflects the full story.  It can reflect someone else’s unresolved or false story.   Especially when emotions, misunderstandings, or agendas get involved.  If you ever come across something negative, I ask for one thing: perspective. I’d rather you ask me about it and let me respond.  I’m not afraid of tough questions.  That’s how I live — and how I lead.

We start slow — I make breakfast while you stretch or hit your workout, then we fuel up and head out for something active or adventurous. 

Afternoons might be time with close friends, or just us — music on, doors open, and sunlight pouring in as we reset. Evenings? Either we’re dressed up for a night out or curled up on the couch, wine in hand, some old jazz or a great movie playing.

We laugh often and touch without thinking. And even the small things — like making dinner or cleaning up together — feel lighter because it’s us.

That’s the rhythm I’m after. Not just romance — but real life, lived well, side by side.

Let’s build. Try. Lead. Explore. Create. Host. Experience.— together.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you!
You now know the basics about where I stand. 

I’m not here for smoke and mirrors. Life’s too hard and too short for surface.

Truth comes out inevitably, so better upfront than wasting each other's time.  

If you want to be and feel safe, wanted, inspired, supported, seen, and fiercely alive—in a partnership grounded in trust, chemistry and mutual respect--then let’s talk.  

And if I'm not the right fit for you — no hard feelings.  I wish you well.

Your move.

Are you in or are you out?